I do not believe that sheer suffering teaches. If suffering alone taught, all the world would be wise, since everyone suffers. To suffering must be added mourning, understanding, patience, love, openness and the willingness to remain vulnerable. 230
For happiness one needs security, but joy can spring like a flower even from the cliffs of despair. 277
Don’t wish me happiness – I don’t expect to be happy it’s gotten beyond that, somehow. Wish me courage and strength and a sense of humor – I will need them all. 325
Men kick friendship around like a football, but it doesn’t seem to crack. Women treat it like glass and it goes to pieces. 233
